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Saturday evening, we had guests for dinner. After dinner, the six of us played UNO. When my kids were young, we played UNO, but we played with the rule that if you didn't have a card to lay down, you continued to draw until you had one. I remember that resulting in kids trying to hold onto 25-plus cards. We now play a little differently and we also keep score. After each win by someone, the other players have to add the points on the cards left in their hands. Obviously, you don't want to be left with a handful of WILD cards or DRAW 2 cards because they cost you 10 and 20 points.

Kalisha is very good at playing UNO. She won the first two rounds Saturday. She also keeps an "eagle eye" on everyone's hand to make sure she can catch them with one card and yell "UNO" before they realize it. We had a great time and were all laughing with her at her prowess.

Later, I was ruminating on the game. As I watched other players, they were analyzing the cards in their hand and speculating what they could lay down to ensure their win and the other players' loss; what color to change to for their benefit and how many times to "reverse" the play or "skip" the person next to them.

Kalisha doesn't do any of those things. She lays the cards according to color or number and if she has one that will change the flow, that's OK too. And she still wins. She doesn't analyze or strategize; she just plays for fun (yes, she definitely likes to win). Many times, people try to overanalyze why Kalisha does some of the things she does or why she says some things she says. I would hate for someone to always be analyzing things I say ... yikes!

While I understand the need for planning, perhaps we all live our lives with a little too much analyzing and strategizing. We need to just play the cards we've been dealt, OK?

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Hello Gloria (coming at ya from a different direction) lol.

You are so right. I find myself at times so preoccupied with other people and what they have, I'm afraid I forget to be grateful for what God has given me.

I've been reading what I call "The Adventures of Kalisha and Mom," and feel like I know both of you -- in person lol. You have such a tender, entertaining, humorous, and insightful blog, I just wanted to thank you for sharing. I've never had the experience of raising an autistic child, but if God had so desired, I hope He would also have led me to you. You are such an encouragement, with or without this particular blog, and I hope people who have won your friendship realize what a gem you really are.

I'm looking forward to the next entry into your diary.

God's blessings to you and Kalisha, wrapped in the all the warmth and love you share with others. Marilyn

Marilyn, Thank you so very much for the kind words. You have given me encouragement to finish the book I am struggling to write about Kalisha and my journey. My goal is not to try to 'fix' anyone's child; only to give a glimpse into what life can be like and some things to NOT get upset about. Obviously, I don't always take my own advice. LOL