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We've experienced a major change in my household in the past week, something I'm not comfortable posting the details about. But suffice it to say that it's rocked our little cocoon and made everybody very nervous.

The kids know something's up, and luckily it seems like they are taking it in stride. The girl is continuing to focus on her homework, her stuffed animals, and on dressing up the dog as a reindeer. The boy is more upset because his daily routine has been disrupted and he's not getting his usual nap anymore.

What stinks about this new situation is that it's such a drastic change that we're having trouble finding a "new normal." I try to look at the positives: no one is sick or dying, but we've come to another kind of end, and it's hard to let go.

With Christmas just around the corner, I'm just trying to make it through one day at a time. There's nothing I can do to change the situation, so the only thing I can do is to quote Dory from "Finding Nemo."

"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming."

How do you deal with life-changing events?


Just keep swimming" has been the theme of my life this past year. Enough life-changing events to make your head spin! I've tried lots of things to deal with it all. Sometimes jokes and laughter, sometimes tears, sometimes flat-out denial. Sometimes, all three in the same day! I've even had a tirade or two with the man upstairs. But when it comes down to it, the only thing that works is to coach myself (and my kids) to just get through TODAY. Anything longer seems overwhelming, and you can only live one day at a time. So just get through the day the best you can, and tomorrow, set your sites on getting through another. It sounds very cliche but usually ends up to be true: everything that comes to an end means something else is just starting. That something else might just be better than the first. OK, so maybe the song lyrics put it more eloquently: "every new beginning starts with some other beginning's end."

Hang in there!


Let me know if I can send you some water-wings. Standing on the edge and praying you keep your head above the waterline. You are stronger than you know.

You asked what we do in life-changing events, I just do the next thing. That's it. Everything else, I say "I'll worry about that tomorrow." or "I cant worry about that today." Or "I'll think about that tomorrow." The point is - I focus on only the next thing.

So sorry to read about a "major change" in your household right at Christmas time. Drastic changes are terribly hard and I wish you the best. I read your blog and will keep you in my prayers. If I can help you, let me know!